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1) Can My Marriage Recover From An Affair?

Can My Marriage Recover From An Affair?

And the simple answer to that is a resounding – yes! How do I know – because my marriage has recovered from my affairs. My wife Nikki and I enjoy a marriage today that is completely different from the marriage we had before she discovered, in 2010, that I had been cheating for the entire 23 years of our marriage up to that time...

2) Why Do People Have Affairs? - Understanding Human Behaviour

 Why Do People Have Affairs? - Understanding Human Behaviour

Human beings are part of a wonderful universe that is so big, it is way beyond our understanding. The human body is so intricate that science has taken thousands of years to get to what we know today, and we still only know a fraction of how a human truly works. So, I am going to describe us in some very basic terms that might seem totally out of date in 2000 years’ time, but for today, they work perfectly well...

3) Unconditional Love Will Affair-Proof Your Marriage

Unconditional Love Will Affair-Proof Your Marriage

What we as human beings want most is love. As we discussed in the last video – it is the essential food for our emotional system. The question that is consistently the highest searched for phrase on Internet search engines is “what is the meaning of love?” The theme of millions of films, books, plays and songs is love. It is something that we are constantly looking for - that feeling of being connected to and cared for by other people - but it can’t just be at any kind of superficial level....

4) The Cause Of Anyone Having An Affair Started In Their Childhood

The Cause Of Anyone Having An Affair Started In Their Childhood

In our previous video, I talked about how the love we get is mistakenly called unconditional love and that in order to have properly nourished emotional systems, we MUST have a consistent supply of the feeling gained from unconditional love - feeling warm and securely connected to others. When we are children, the people we need to get this kind of love from the most, is our parents. Sadly, the supply of love that 99% of us got was not actually unconditional, and even if we did get some unconditional love, the supply was insufficiently consistent to meet our emotional needs... 

5) The Adult 'Junk Food' We Use For Emotional Nourishment 

The Adult 'Junk Food' We Use For Emotional Nourishment

In the previous videos, I have explained what unconditional love is and why roughly 99% of us did not get enough of it. We were loved conditionally, not unconditionally, and this has left the vast majority of us, from childhood right through into adulthood, feeling empty and unloved. That emptiness is so intolerably painful that we'll reach out to find whatever will relieve us from this discomfort even if that relief is superficial, incomplete, temporary, and risky... 

6) How Could My Partner Have An Affair? We Used To Be So 'In Love'!

How Could My Partner Have An Affair? We Used To Be So 'In Love'!

So why do relationships start off great and then fall apart? As I've explained in the earlier videos, what we all need most is unconditional love and in the absence of that we are desperately searching for relief from the pain of the empty feeling we have of not feeling properly loved. We desperately look for the people and the circumstances that will give us the best feeling available. We are always looking outside of us for something to make us feel better – we are constantly seeking emotional junk food or painkillers for our emotional pain... 

7) My Spouse Had An Affair. Why Does It Hurt So Much?

My Spouse Had An Affair. Why Does It Hurt So Much?

I have described in earlier videos how the absence of the right kind of emotional nourishment (unconditional love) leaves us feeling unconnected and alone. Approximately 99% of us experienced a sufficient lack of the right kind of love in our childhoods, that we are left carrying a gnawing emotional pain into our adult lives – and we soothe this pain by seeking out pain relief from other people – given in the form or praise, power, pleasure or safety.
Even in our adult lives we are constantly coming across people and scenarios where we are promised to be loved but it turns out the person promising, falls well short of our initial expectations – and this simply adds to our pain... 

8) I Had An Affair. How Do I Deal With My Spouse's Anger And Hurt?

I Had An Affair. How Do I Deal With My Spouse's Anger And Hurt?

As I’ve previously explained, the underlying reason for any level of anger – from mild disappointment right through to explosive rage – it’s all as a result of feeling that we are not being cared for – a lack of feeling like someone unconditionally loves us. And since you have had an affair – it is entirely understandable why your spouse would be feeling like you haven’t been caring about them, right now.

When we don't have enough of the one ingredient that is essential to our emotional health, we are in constant pain and in that condition, we respond badly often with anger, even to the slightest provocation. In your circumstances, the pain can run so deep that your spouse’s hurt, and anger could go on for weeks and months and you will inevitably feel like you are walking on eggshells... 

9) How Can We Repair Our Marriage After An Affair?

How Can We Repair Our Marriage After An Affair?

Well, we discussed in an earlier video how many people get together and have an amazing feeling in the beginning which then fades over time and so the relationship is beset by arguments, lack of connection, fewer common interests and in your case, one of you has had an affair. Even if this weren’t the case, was there a previous general feeling of dissatisfaction for either of you – or both?

Among the couples that I help, one of the couple will always say that after so many years of being together, they don’t feel as close as they once were, and they go on to ask, how can we repair our marriage when things weren’t the best anyway.
This is actually the wrong question to be asking...

10) How Can I Introduce Unconditional Love Into Our Marriage After An Affair?

How Can We Introduce Unconditional Love Into Our Marriage After An Affair?

I've already explained in earlier videos that the one thing that we need most to experience maximum joy, peace and freedom in our lives is love. The lack of this vital ingredient is the primary cause of our individual unhappiness and the disappointment and conflict in our relationships. So, there is nothing we could do that's more important than learning about and then sharing the right kind of love - unconditional love.

So, I guess the practical question is how do we find out about unconditional love, how do we heal our own emotional pain, how do we eliminate our own emptiness, fear and anger and go on to transform our relationships? ...
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