Get Over An Affair
Want To Save Your Marriage After An Affair?
Discover the ONE THING that will make ALL the difference!
Hi - I'm Pete Uglow, UK Expert Infidelity Coach and Mentor. 

In 2010 my wife Nikki discovered I had been cheating on her for the whole of our 23 year marriage. Despite us both wanting to save our marriage, we had no answers as to why I had really done it, no solution to Nikki's anguish and no clue how to go forwards. 

Sound familiar?

Then we discovered something COMPLETELY different.

If we had known about this when Nikki first discovered my infidelity, it would have saved us hours and hours of counselling that was never going to work and it would have saved us months of debilitating emotional pain, lack of trust, anxiety, disconnection and conflict.

I've put together a VIDEO  that explains what we learned so that you don't have to carry on suffering like we did.  

In the VIDEO, you will discover:
  • The ONE THING you & your marriage needs in order to recover successfully.
  • Why the pain of betrayal hurts so much - so that you can start to heal, trust and feel sane again.
  • EXACTLY why your spouse had an affair - so you don't have to feel bewildered anymore.
  • 3 PROVEN STEPS you could both take now - to successfully recover from the trauma of infidelity and secure your relationship for the future.
  • Real life 'Case Studies'​ - to show how you too can rebuild your marriage so that it is better than it has ever been before.

"Your emails are wonderful to read from a straying partner point of view. I told my husband the other night about your bottle analogy in the video. He broke down and said that was exactly why it happened and yet until you described it he didn’t have any idea.”

As The Betrayed Wife, Maybe You Can Relate To Aspects Of This .... ?
“After infidelity, regardless of the support from friends and family, you just feel so terribly alone. To have your trust breached and your heart so wounded by the person you felt would never do anything like that, well, it feels like the worst pain you can endure. It’s with you no matter how much you try to distract yourself and there is nothing you can do to make it go away.

Even years later, I still have moments where sadness, confusion and anger creep up on me and I break down in tears. These tears go way beyond my experience of betrayal – they stem down to the little girl inside, whose deepest insecurity is of not being good enough.”
As The Betrayed Husband, Maybe You Can Relate To Aspects Of This .... ?
“Every night I think I want her, yet with every touch I can't help but think to myself - Did he have his hands on her like this in this very spot? And is my touching her that way causing her to remember the way he made her feel that time? And is she imagining him right now or is she truly here with me?” 
It's a vicious cycle. 
I move my hand away and tell myself to not let my guard down & to stay strong. But I find myself longing to touch the woman I've loved for 10 yrs. And it breaks me down day after day. I cry when she falls asleep. She’ll wake up sometimes and see the evidence of tears and I just say “I'm ok, I'm ok” - because ultimately I don't want her to be thinking of him or that night any more than I'm sure she already does!.”
As The Straying Husband, Maybe You Can Relate To Aspects Of This .... ?
“I thought at that time, if only my wife and I had more sex, I wouldn't have to go elsewhere. I actually felt like I had no choice because I felt so unwanted. I felt like I was literally bottom of the pecking order behind her parents, our kids, her job, even the dog! I didn't ever feel appreciated for what I did for our family and that just added to the feeling of emptiness inside me. 

Then I started cheating. I felt justified. And for a brief while I felt wanted, desired - special even - until the guilt and the shame crept in afterwards! Honestly, I really just wanted everything to be okay and for my wife to love me” 
As The Straying Wife, Maybe You Can Relate To Aspects Of This .... ?
“I think I am in love with someone other than my husband. I can't stop thinking about him. 
My husband and I should have everything we need to be happy and on the outside we put on a happy appearance to our family and friends. But there is something missing. We've been together for a long time. We've gone to countless weddings of people we know, only to see their marriages end in divorce after a few short years. I know that people see us as an example of what marriage should be like, but they have no idea how I really feel inside.
Don't get me wrong. I love my husband. But I just don't think I am IN love with him anymore. I think I need more than what my husband can give me. ” 
From Personal Experience Nikki & I Know That Infidelity REALLY Hurts...
Every infidelity situation is different but the powerful emotions of the betrayed partner and the confusion of the straying partner, are all very similar. Surprisingly, there is just ONE root cause of all infidelity & therefore there is just ONE solution to the pain and the confusion, as these people discovered ...
*Please note:  We respect the confidentiality of ALL of the people we help, since no-one wants to have their name linked to infidelity and splashed all over the internet (except us of course!) but the comments are 100% genuine.
My World Crumbled
"We were the perfect couple, that’s what everyone thought, and we did too! 

My whole life was perfect. I was raised perfectly, or so I thought - until all the perfection exploded into little bits of years of pent up anger, victimhood and pain.

My husband had an affair and all my world crumbled....  

I desperately tried to keep us together and it got worse as I tried helping him be accountable, still not trusting him, making sure my 'friends and family' app was monitoring his every move.

I then connected with Pete Uglow and from the first moment I spoke with him and shared some of my drama, his calm and quiet conversation with me sparked hope.
I felt no shame, guilt or fear. I liked feeling this way and wanted to know how to feel even better.  

We started our journey in finding what loving looks like and why it had happened. Then my hurt, anger and heart healed. 

It now seems like a million years ago...

There are moments that I just look up and am so grateful for finding the road to real happiness.

As I look back I’m thankful for my journey, the hard and prickly bits, and now the joy and peace I feel is priceless. I’m grateful for the lifetime I have to grow and experience loving my husband. "
L. C. (United Kingdom)

Thank You From The Bottom Of My Heart 

"My husband's infidelity rocked my world. I have never felt so alone, so unwanted or so unattractive in my life. My family and my friends kept telling me what a useless man I had married and that I deserved more, but it didn't help. In fact it made things worse!
But with Pete Uglow's help I have learned that I do matter and because I now know that, I have been able to learn how to help my husband feel important too. 

The changes have been truly amazing. I absolutely know that he will never be unfaithful to me again and words can't convey this feeling. Our world is now understandable and we have a blueprint for our relationship going forwards. Thank you from the bottom of my heart."

A.D. (United Kingdom)

Turning Point Of Our Entire Lives

“My wife and I discovered Pete's information at probably the lowest point of our marriage, but I now look back on that time as being the turning point of our entire lives. 

My wife was clearly telling me how unloved she felt by the behaviours she was exhibiting and in my own unloved state I chose to feel hurt and angry.

Pete helped us see what we were doing to each other and that in trying to ‘get’ love from each other and elsewhere, we were only succeeding in driving the real thing away.

We have had to relearn our whole view of the world, of what people’s behaviours are telling us and how our own behaviour gives away our emptiness. It has created an amazing bond between my wife and I and it has been a completely life changing experience.”
G.H. (United States)

This Is The Missing Piece 

"Becoming aware of all this has hit the nail on the head for me. This is the missing piece that I’ve unknowingly been searching for all my life and I'm so grateful I found this information and you Pete.”  D.M. (United Kingdom)

I Will Never Go Back To That Behaviour Again 

“Embracing the principles I have been taught and feeling unconditionally accepted, has enabled me to understand exactly why I had affairs and also to find the ability to tell the truth about them, without feeling that I would be judged, embarrassed or blamed. It has also ensured I will never go back to that behaviour again.”  S.M (United Kingdom)

This stuff rocks! 

"December 2014 was probably the worst time of my life... and as you know it hadn’t been a great life before that!   Pete, the day my husband told me he had been seeing someone else just about ripped my heart out but, though it pains me to say it, I love him more now because of that betrayal. But then again that is only because of what you taught us. I’m crazy grateful but you know that because I keep telling you. This stuff rocks! " D.F. (United States)

Until you know exactly why your husband cheated and exactly why you feel so much pain (and I mean the REAL REASON), you can't hope to recover ....
But here's the thing ...
most people believe their recovery lies in knowing what he did and what his thought process was, whilst he was cheating.
They even believe that knowing the type of affair is important.
I can promise you, that's not the answer.
It might feel really important to know everything he did and everything he thought when he cheated, but there is no freedom from pain or hope for your marriage if that's the only solution you have.
Most of us live in ignorance of the ONE THING which feeds both marriage and our own emotional system.

Learn what an empty plastic bottle can tell you about the cause of his infidelity, your pain and the ONLY solution to it all.

“I find myself filled with emotion every email I read of yours after seeing this video. You say all the right words to exactly how I feel. I have also watched your 10 video series on Youtube and I can’t get enough of this way of looking at the whole situation.” 

Back in 2016 Nikki and I were featured on Channel 5's - 'Me And My Affair'
I had been an Infidelity Coach & Mentor for 5 years at that point and we had already helped many couples heal from the pain of infidelity.
We were approached by the producer of the programme who wanted us to be featured as the ONLY couple (out of 10 interviewed), who had survived the pain and rebuilt their marriage on a firm foundation.

 This served to highlight how difficult recovery can be for couples. 
Following the airing of that documentary, we were inundated with further requests for TV appearances, newspaper and magazine articles. Pete was approached to become the 'relationship expert' for a number of TV projects.
Fast forward 5 years and today, we now turn similar offers down. Today, all we want to do is concentrate on working directly with, and helping couples just like you. YOU matter to us!

Nikki and I have now been married for 32 years and the last (nearly) ten years have been blissful. We have a beautifully harmonious marriage which has withstood many external stresses (because, let's face it, life is never the easy ride we want it to be!) Each of us now feels wanted, valued and understood within the relationship and my own need for sex outside our marriage has simply vanished.

I'm guessing you want that too?

I have helped hundreds of individuals and couples overcome their own pain, understand why it happened, affair-proof their marriage and create the loving, blissful union they always wanted.

What we offer is a unique and proven method of recovery, so if you are feeling overwhelmed in trying to overcome infidelity, watch our video. 

I think you might feel very differently after that.
"Thank you. This is different to anything else I've come across! Having watched the video I now see exactly why the affair happened and it's all explained in such an unusual way!"  
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